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Lyz
Unregistered User
(2/5/06 6:42 pm)
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How do princess fairy tales affect our relationships?
Does the princess motif triggered by childhood fairytales affect our intimate relationships in a positive or a negative way? Are we waiting for a prince charming that may never come? How does this affect the way we look at ourselves and others? Are the effects (good or bad) different amongst the sexes? Do fairy tales tamper with the social standards of what is good or evil? what is right or wrong. I am intersted on some fresh and new ideas on this.
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Writerpatrick
Registered User
(2/6/06 9:55 am)
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Re: How do princess fairy tales affect our relationships?
I don't think they have that much of an effect. Parental influences are much stronger. For instance, girls are generally not raised (or at least haven't been) with the notion that marriage means uniting with someone to support you rather than uniting with someone to be supported. While fairy stories--which reflect the beliefs of their times--may say one thing, it's rarely the only influence.
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Crceres
Registered User
(2/6/06 11:58 am)
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Re: How do princess fairy tales affect our relationships?
The theme from fairy tales that always bothered me was that the main character was always inherently good and unerring in their ways (such as being kind to animals and beggars). In some ways it seems a ubiquitous theme, whereas variations on relationships abound.
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princessterribel
Registered User
(2/6/06 6:08 pm)
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princesses
I think that by the time children grow up they realise that this concept is something more likely to occur in works of fantasy rather than in real time (I am not saying that no one ever fnds their prince charming of course) and as a result when we are exposed to fairytales as children we ahve no intimate relationships in terms of marriage.
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pacifiquesea
Registered User
(2/6/06 7:12 pm)
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Re: princesses
I concur with Patrick - parental influences are much stronger than fairy tales when it comes to relationships.
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avalondeb
Registered User
(2/7/06 1:39 pm)
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Re: princesses
I believe parental influence is much stronger.
However, I find it very interesting that a few of my friends with toddlers, boys and girls, don't let their children see any of the "Disney Princess" movies. Mainly because they don't like the way women are portrayed.
So perhaps part of parental influence is making sure that fairy tales with negative portrayals are avoided.
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Lyz
Unregistered User
(2/8/06 5:38 pm)
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Princess Fairy tales
I do agree that parents to have a very strong influence on thier children.
My intimate relationships with the opposite sex from a young age were very confusing. Men did not behave as I had anticipated. I expected emotional self aware beings who were going to save me from myself. I do not give fairy tales full credit for this, but I do think that they have affected us and our parents.
There are not too many parents out there that monitor what their children watch. They encourage gender roles unintentionally; the stories comfirm if not confuse children on a subconcious level.
Why is it that evil is portrayed as ugly, black, old, and good young pretty and perfect?
There are many women, young and old that are in a situtation with a man, where they expect to be taken care of and are not prepared to take care of themselves. There are also many parents in different cultures of this country that teach their children this today.
Fairy tales also affect our movies and tv shows; a lot follow similar formulas. Again, though fairy tales cannot take all credit for the infuence, they definately have some influence.
<stepping if of my worn soapbox> :o
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Chris Peltier
Registered User
(2/9/06 12:43 pm)
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Re: Princess Fairy tales
Your interpretation of "Princess Fairytales" seems to reflect a more modern understanding of fairytales, perhaps in light of the Disney Princesses, than of heroines found in the older stories. Princesses were not always outwardly beautiful (Donkeyskin), nor always reliant on men, but sometimes their (the men's) saviour (Kate Crackernuts).
For a great subversion of pop culture, read WriterPatrick's parody of Pokemon:
www.geocities.com/penink_.../RvsP.html
~Chandra~
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