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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/22/05 6:52 pm)
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anyone know if...?
can anyone prove fairies, and anamithims and stuff like this are real? maybe you would know more of what i was talking about if you read "the blue girl"
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JMerriam
Registered User
(1/22/05 7:50 pm)
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Re: anyone know if...?
Nope. There's no proof, only theories.
I love the idea that Homo floresiensis is the "little people" of legend, but it's just speculation, and I don't think there's any doubt they're extinct.
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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/23/05 1:59 am)
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anyone know if...?
i want there to be a whole other world with fairies(not the cute ones with wings) and anammithims and stuff like that. for some reason it makes me sad thinking that there will never be anything like it.
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evil little pixie
Registered User
(1/24/05 7:11 am)
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Re: anyone know if...?
There may not be any proof that faerieland exists in the so-called real world, but there's nothing to stop you from creating your own version of it, by writing or drawing or making costumes or cake-decorating or whatever, just like lots of people on this board have.
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DawnReiser
Registered User
(1/24/05 4:31 pm)
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proof
The absence of proof is not the proof of absense.
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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/24/05 6:54 pm)
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imagine
i already do imagine stuff like that, and i dont think it is very normal.my parents would think theres something wrong with me if they found out.
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AliceCEB
Registered User
(1/24/05 7:14 pm)
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Re: imagine
Oh anamithim, I don't think there's anything abnormal about it--it's what artists do.
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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/24/05 11:10 pm)
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imagine
oh, i know it isnt normal but its way further than i would go usualy.and does anyone know how to get rid of fear of the dark and the "boogeyman"and such other things? :\
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JMerriam
Registered User
(1/25/05 1:33 pm)
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Re: imagine
It is entirely normal to create fantasy worlds that you like better than the real world, and base creative works (books, plays, music, whatever) there. Loads of perfectly sane people do this.
What is abnormal is being unable to tell the difference between reality and the fantasy world.
You've asked several times on these boards about getting rid of your fear of the dark, which makes me wonder if you have particularly bad nightmares or something. I don't know the extent to which this is a problem for you, and it may be perfectly normal - lots of teenagers are still afraid of the dark (though they generally won't admit it to their friends) - but if it is causing you problems sleeping, or your sleep isn't restful enough because of bad dreams, or it is otherwise creating a problem in your life, then you need to talk to somebody about it.
I don't mean talking to us, though you are welcome to do so. As far as I know, nobody here is a sleep therapist, or a psychologist, and even if they were, this isn't a good forum for therapy. Don't be afraid to ask for help offline. It's just exactly the same as getting help for a physical problem, like if you couldn't sleep because you'd sprained your ankle, you'd see a doctor or a physiotherapist. This is the same thing.
Often people experience night terrors because of bad things going on in their life. If something bad is happening to you, whatever it is, there is somebody who can help you. Talk to your parents, or if you think they can't help you (or if they are the problem), then talk to a teacher or an adult friend, like an aunt or uncle you trust, or talk to your family doctor or your religious advisor if you have one (priest, minister, rabbi, or whatever). There may also be a teen hotline in your area - look in the yellow pages. Any of these people will be able to give you advice on how to deal with the problem.
edited because "rabbi" and "rabbit" are not synonyms
see how moonlight's sharp music breaks all of your windows
Edited by: JMerriam at: 1/25/05 1:36 pm
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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/25/05 6:56 pm)
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imagine
hmm, well maybe it is more normal than i think. but the reason i posted 3 times is causewhen i went into a certain topic it didnt show that i posted it, so i didnt think it went through. if i told anyone in my family that i was scared of the dark they would just tell me to grow up.some of my close friends know and they just kinda smile and say "you are?"i dont know how to get help with it, i guess im just gonna have to live with it.i also "beleive" i hear things in my room. i dunno but totaly off topic so im just gonna shush up.
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Erica Carlson
Registered User
(1/25/05 10:15 pm)
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Re: imagine
Firstly, just to reiterate what many others have said, if the fear of the dark is interfering with your sleep, your life, your sense of well-being, it's worth talking to someone about it--someone flesh and blood as opposed to us voices on the wires, that is.
Just an idea that worked for me. I think Black Sheep offered a similar idea, so it's not exactly new, but try putting protective objects around your bedroom & by your bed. I think your belief in the protective properties of the objects you choose is the most important part of making this work. I was fascinated and scared to death of Dracula (the book by Stoker, not any particular movie version) when in high school, and I grew a small garlic plant by my bedside table (very smelly little plant!) and hung a cross by the bed and one in the window. It helped, but that was a fairly easy fear to combat since Stoker's vamps play by such clear rules.
There are plants and colors that are also considered by some to be protective (though I'm afraid I can't tell you where to get blue vervain pollen!). Several of De Lint's books mention rowan (mountain ash) berries and twigs, for example. Easy enough to tuck a berry or leaf or twig over your door frame and/or around your windows. You might want to look up the folklore of plants and create your own protective wards.
And it is perfectly natural to want more magic in the world. Writing, painting, & storytelling (even just to yourself) are all good ways to make the world a bit more magical.
Best,
Erica
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CougarDolphin
Registered User
(1/26/05 9:41 am)
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Re: imagine
And it is perfectly natural to want more magic in the world. Writing, painting, & storytelling (even just to yourself) are all good ways to make the world a bit more magical.
I would add any spiritual practice that makes the world more magical as well. Doing whatever makes you feel closer to the unseen world, Divine, the Source, God.
I am a Charles Delint fan and I havne't read his latest Blue Girl - yet. His books are full of magic, danger, and the unseen world, for me the unconscious. Reading his books has stirred much in me and some of it is creativity and feeling of magic and sweetness in life.
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Black Sheep
Registered User
(1/26/05 12:19 pm)
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Re: imagine
Anamithim, I know this is a boring practical suggestion but if you're disturbed by noises while you're trying to sleep then try sleeping on your side so that one of your ears is on the pillow and you only hear half as much noise.
Joanne, if anyone here was a therapeutic professional of any kind they'd probably invalidate their insurance by offering advice to a non-client who is not known to them personally and is also legally underage. Most professional organizations would, in theory, be obliged to remove registration/legal-license-to-practice/etc from any of their members who behaved so irresponsibly,
Sheep (definitely not a qualified practitioner of any kind ;) )
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redtriskell
Registered User
(1/27/05 1:41 am)
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just because you can't see it...
...doesn't mean it isn't there. "Belief" is a tricky word. If someone asked me if I "believed" in the fey, vampires, werewolves, dragons etc., I would, of course, respond with my usual "Literally? Well, no, not exactly. As a symbol? Sure." But that's just what I say so no one thinks I'm an idiot. I have a clear line between what is real and what is pretend, but I also think it doesn't hurt anything to choose to believe what I want to believe. For example, there are millions of people who believe in the literal existence of God, even though there is not a shred of proof. Is it any different to believe faeries inhabit my backyard? I certainly don't think so. And, Anamithim, I hope you realize you are not as weird or strange or whatever as you might have been thinking. Having an unusual perspective and being a little (or a lot) different from most of the people you know is not a bad thing. I will admit it can be hard, but I've found that I'd rather be who I really am than pretend to be something else. It wasn't easy in high school to be "that weird girl" with the "weird" friends, but my life now is more amazing than I ever would have imagined. It gets easier and better. You get more comfortable with yourself, more confident. And you meet people who share common interests- people who are on your wavelength. You are not alone; the entire history of all the artists who ever lived is full of talented people who were weird.;)
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anamithim
Unregistered User
(1/27/05 8:00 pm)
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imagine
me and my est friend are almost exactly the same, scared of the dark and beleive in things that may not exist. well anyways were different from our other friends. and about that scared of the dark thing, my dad knows and just said" i dont know where you got that paranoia from" and that was it, my dad doesnt care about what i am and am not scared of. so, i told someone and they didnt care.now what?i cant tell my mom, she will just be like " oh thats b.s." blah blah blah, my family is worthless.
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redtriskell
Registered User
(1/28/05 3:53 am)
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Re: imagine
Anamithim- I, obviously, don't know you or your family, but are they really worthless? I mean, do they love you and take care of you and feed you and such? I think it's unfortunate your dad didn't respond well to what you tried to tell him, but, even if he didn't understand you, it doesn't necessarily mean he is a total moron. I think people forget sometimes what it's like to be young. How intense everything feels. Or sometimes, even when they love you, they just don't understand how important something is. I'm glad you have a friend who understands you. I myself have been friends with my best friend since we were about sixteen, and there have been many times in the last fifteen years when I thought she was the only person on the face of the earth who could even begin to understand whatever I was saying. I consider myself lucky to have a friend like her. She was always there when I felt like I was alone and no one cared about me; she was my proof that at least one person did care enough to listen. I hope you continue to have a close friend to share this part of your life with. Maybe you and your friend can understand each other- sometimes that's enough. And maybe you could try talking to your dad again. Or, if not, if you feel like he just won't get it, maybe you and your friend can figure out a way to help each other deal with fear of the dark. A way the two of you can defeat the darkness. I wrote stories. Maybe if the two of you wrote a story or created a painting or acted out a play or whatever, you would both feel better for having done something to deal with the fear instead of letting it get in the way of your life. Plus, you could be each other's audience for your creation. I urge you to try something to alleviate your fear, even if it seems silly. Doing something is usually better than doing nothing.;)
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